Most of us can be quick to point fingers. It might be a fender-bender, an overcooked hamburger, or losing the Superbowl on the last play of the game - I know my first instinct is to figure out who is to blame for my suffering. In life, this instinct may be correct most of the time. If someone hits your car, you call the cops then expect the other driver's insurance to pay to fix it. If your hamburger is burned, you send it back and blame the chef. read more